TOP147.com讯 法国首都时间15号晚，九球FIFA World Cup随着中华人民共和国队的亮相引来了第一波小高潮。由香江市职员和工人采纳爆发的中中原人民共和国B队幸不辱命，以7-2的比分轻取远道而来的南非共和国（The Republic of South Africa）队，获得开门红。赛中，TOP147的央视采访者也第一时间访谈了两个选手。
“All of us like stairs, one step after another. Going up, going down, but always going the same way.” This sentence is from An-Mei. It might not be correct, but in some way, it also illustrates the relationship between the mother and daughter, we are always linked together, the feeling we need each other is so strong. Watching this movie, I felt I saw myself, my mom, and the way we treat each other. Lack of communication might be the most important problem, why people just can’t tell others what they really want, what they really care about. In the film, the four mothers are Chinese immigrants and their daughters are America-raised, the culture’s different between mother and daughter lead to the different values, it might be another problem that we can’t understand each other. So, how to act properly as being daughters and mothers?
What do children like to do in China?
Have been thinking this for a quite a long time, you know, writing in
English. It can be hard, if you stand in front of trying something,
being easy same time when you stop hesitating and just type down your
first word. Then you can fly.
This very first article, I wanna share some feelings about a series of book, which is my favorite, named 《Harry Potter》. I talk just as a reader, so things won’t go too serious, but quite subjective.Reasons of how this book benefit me.
This film is talking about four stories of mothers and daughters. As immigrants, all of the four mothers have a tough experience before they come to America, they have A American dream that their daughter can’t understand. The American dream is a belief that life would be better and richer. They just hope their daughter not to experience what they have experienced in China, they hope their daughter can achieve something. But sometimes they express in a wrong way, so there must be a lot conflicts.
In my generation, children like to play together, like playing hide and seek, playing mom and dad, which means some children pretended to be mom and dad, some children pretended to be kids, and they cook, do housework and talk like a real adults family. Children in my generation do no have too many toys like children nowdays.
First, these books saved my boring and wondering time when I needed.
I met it at really young time, no more than 13, I remembered. You experienced and I believe you knew, school time was not that charming. Under the pressure of homework and being alone sometimes, I did wondering where are the funs of life, I didn’t follow those active boys and girls, because my uncle(I was living in their house during my teenage time) didn’t allow me getting out frequently even weekends. So my choices are narrow, I stayed with books a lot, but not textbooks. You guess right, I met that shining book at bookstore one day. I can’t remember how many days took me to finish that first book, but standing there is for sure. Time flies when I read them, defeating the moments when we use smartphones. :)
Just like Waverly and her mother Lindo, they have a conflict for a long time. They never express their real thoughts so that they misunderstanding each other for so many years. Waverly think Lindo was not satisfied with her. Lindo think Waverly was embarrassing and ashamed to be her daughter, and I think this thought hurt Lindo’s self-esteem so that she always shows she’s not satisfied with her daughter. And, the reason why Lindo would have this thought is that she is a Chinese woman. I think Lindo is an aggressive and very independent woman, Waverly just like her mother. When Lindo was young, she already knew what kind of person she wants to be and what kind of life she really wants, so she can leave her Chinese husband to the United States. She is so brave and intelligent, she’s not often smiling, Waverly is a little afraid of her even though she’s grow up. Lindo didn’t give Waverly enough attention, praise, and affirmation. No matter what Waverly do, she just can’t get her mother’s favour, it hurts Waverly a lot. She is always thinking how to please her mother. But Lindo never know Waverly’s thoughts. Waverly and Lindo never had a good communication until Waverly’s getting married.
Now, the children have a lot of toys, like toy cars, toy planes, and they can even remote control their toy cars and planes, and they can play alone. They also access to the internet games, both on computers and smartphones, especially the recent popular game called Wangzherongyao, a lot of children and teenagers are addicted to it a lot.
Second, these books opened a wonderland for me and lasted until now.
Imagination is the treasure that humans got. For me, without it I can’t imagine how I will live my life. The world in my mind is my last Eden. All the fantastic and absurd ideas helped and will help me for long long time. Magic world of HP donate a rather big part.
Q：This is not the first time that you play in China. You played Chinese Billiard before. What`s the difference between the two envents？（那不是你第叁回来中华竞赛了。您已经踏足过美式斯诺克的赛事。您感到这两体系型里面有哪些差距？）
They never want to hurt each other, but why their act make others misunderstand? Why they do that? It reminds me of the Pygmalion Effect. Praise, trust and expect have a kind of power, it can change people’s behavior, when a person get another person’s trust and praise, he will feel won the social support, so as to enhance the self value, become self-confidence, self-esteem, and achieve a positive power, and try our best to reach the other side of the expect. We influence each other. Pygmalion effect tells us, to a person transfer positive expectations, will make him progress faster and better development. On the other hand, with one transfer negative expectations will make the person giving up, give up efforts. Waverly and Lindo didn’t give each other any positive behavior, so they just can’t get positive response, I think it may be a circulation. If no one gives the first step, the circulation would never stop. In Waverly is still a child, her mother didn’t give enough praise, even though Waverly is growing up, she still feel her mother is against her all the time. What’s more, they don’t communicate too much, they even don’t know each other’s real mind. They both refused to compromise, it results in the conflict be there for so many years.
I also found that many children are interested in playing soccer, and they spend a lot of time on practising it and they enjoy it every much. Some chidren seems to like drawing, and they are really into it.
Third, the passion of reading the English version,helped me a lot at my language learning.
When I am old enough to talk with people how I manage it, and importantly I didn’t lose it even now, reading English novels gives one entry. I met HP when I was young and could read Chinese only, after knowing that is a English book,it makes me confused and kinda discomfort. Maybe it planted a seed of language in my mind, but when I got older I did reread the English series. Then I felt I prefer to read all origin version of books.
Entertainment and education together. 《Harry Potter》series benefit me during my young time. But still now, I take language as a tool, always the beauty is how you use it and paint a world to communicate.
R.Halliday：Great! They are different games and I think 9 ball requires a lot more and needs better position. You need to play the cue ball better. But in Chinese Billiard，potting is more important.（特别对。那是三种天渊之隔的移动，9球须要更完善的能力和越来越精致的走位，你须求将母球调整得越来越细致。而榜上知名斯诺克更讲究准度的必要。）
There are full of confusion and misunderstandings in our life, because we always think what we think is right and then do the wrong thing. Sometimes we will feel that we are so strange that we can’t understand each other. But please open heart and open mouth, try to forgive them. We never know what they mean to us until we lose them, and please don’t wait until that time. When people closer, they are easier to hurt each other, I believe even the misunderstanding is still a kind of love. In the film, June never understand her mother even though her mother dead. June said, “I didn’t know anything about her(June’s mother)”.
Q:This is a special match for you because you face Team China as well as the Chinese supporters. How did you solve the problem and how to deal with the pressure？（那是一场特别的交锋，因为你们面前碰着的中华夏族民共和国队全数太多主场的拥护者。你们是怎么解决那么些难度怎么应对这种压力的？）
June’s mother is Suyuan. Suyuan hopes June can get the best, be the best, and be the best piano player in China. She thinks June can be anything, anything she wanted. Whether Suyuan’s really think so, but June believes she is thinking and Suyuan had really said so. June doesn’t like piano and she know she doesn’t have the talent, she think her mother never see that what she really is. June wants to prove her mother was wrong, she didn’t have any talent, she is only an ordinary person, as an ordinary person, she also thought she didn’t deserve the best. When she grew up, she would say she is modest, always take care of others. I think Suyuan’s expect must be a big pressure to June, June will feel hurt if she doesn’t meet Suyuan’s expectation, and she doesn’t want to let her mother to be disappointed. For a little girl, Suyuan’s expectation is too hard. June even thought she must be the big disappointment in her mother’s life.
As all kids, Chinese kids would spend a lot of time watching cartoon and playing computer games nowdays. I know so many kids are very keen on the games on iPad and they can spend the whole day on it. And my childhood was mostly about watching cartoons. Well, but acutally I don't think it's very advisable. Childhood shoulde be spent on more meaningful things like cultivating a hobby, reading books, etc.
R.Halliday：Yes，when you play in someone`s own ground，it`s not always easy. But I used to play a lot in China，so I didn`t think too much about it.（是的，当你在别人的主场比赛时，总是非常不方便的。不过自身频仍在炎黄比赛，早就习认为常这种氛围，所以作者并未忧虑太多。）
But absolutely, there’s a misunderstanding. One time, after a quarrel at the dinner, Suyuan told June that she never expect, only hope, only hope the best for June, it’s no wrong to hope. But she never knows every time she hope for something June couldn’t deliver, it hurts June. June said, “And no matter what you hope for, I would never be more what I am, and you never see that what I really am”. Her mother’s hope just likes a big burden, not love.
Moreover, kids nowdays have fun alone, which I think really negative.
J.Le Roux：I think the pressure is equal to all the players. But I didn`t feel much pressure.（作者感到压力对两端都以一碗水端平的，并且我也从未感受到过多的下压力。）
Mothers always think their kids should get something what they think is the best, but most of the time, it’s not what the child really want. Mothers never ask, only commands. In Chinese traditional concept, the family not only represents the absolute power of parents, but also means the interdependent relationship between parents and children. But in America, the individualism values encourage people struggle, stressed self realization and independent consciousness.
Q：You played in China for a lot of times，and you also become more and more famous here. Can you say something to your supporters？
In the film, the four mothers try hard to be Americans, to accept American values, but in fact, they still agree with Chinese culture. For their daughters, they didn’t have a clear cognition for china, they even don’t know how to speak Chinese, they agree with American values and way of life. When mother and daughter talking, mother used to say “you Americans blabla ”, and daughters used to say “we Americans blabla ”, they divided each other into different group unconsciously. So there must be a little prejudice between them. I think it may be a reason why June wants to prove her mom is wrong, I still remember when June was a little girl, she ever said to her mother, “I am not your slave, this is not china, you can’t make me”. It’s cute, but it also hurt her mother. Besides, the different values are also the reason why Lindo thinks Waverly must be embarrassing to be her daughter.
I should brainstorm every time on the topic and find different aspects on the topic, for example on this one I can brainstorm like children in big city and small city, children in countryside and city, children in my geration and children in nowdays. I only thought of children in my generation and children in nowdays. I only described what children like in China, but I didn't give my opinion on it, that is to say is that good or bad.
宝马X5.哈尔liday：Yeah I think Chinese fans are the best. They are always behind you，and you can always expect full crowed. I love to play in China.（是的，作者感到中华夏族民共和国颇负最好的观球的观众，他们直白在您身后辅助着你，你也能够憧憬一下满额的看台。笔者非常心爱在华夏竞赛。）
Lucky, in the last two generations have buried the hatchet. Mothers broke the silence and have a communication with their daughter. When daughters meet difficulties and frustration, mothers on their own initiative to help them to analyze and solve problems, and encourage them. On the other hand, as the growth of the age, daughters began to listen to mother’s talk, and gradually understand mother, and thinking the relationship between mother and daughter. They totally understand how they care and love each other.
J.Le Roux：I didn`t play in China，and it is the first time. The people welcome me，and I`ll come back later.（笔者还尚无在中原比赛的经验，那是率先次。不过此地的人热情接待大家，小编会再来的。）
This film let us realize the communication problem between mother and daughter, it’s helpful for us to avoid misunderstanding and conflict between mother and daughter. No doubt, it really touch me, it is amazing. Each daughter is mother’s hope. No matter misunderstanding, conflicts, or something else are the performances of love. The more we love, the more we hurt. All we need to do is open our heart, understand them, forgive them, be kind to them, and love them.
In generation, children in the city and countryside like to do different things in China, mainly because they have different resources and different education enviroment.
Chidren in the countryside may have more time to watch TV, like reality shows and cartoons, beacuse they don't have so much pressure from competition and their parents. They also like to play games together on streets or playground, like hide and seek or other games they invented themselves. Children in the country may will miss their childhood more when they grow up.
But children in the city may are not allowed to watch TV or have little time to watch TV, because they have many extra-courses to take and a lot of homework to do. Since the competion in the city is much fiercer, the children have more pressure, they may like to play computer games and phone games to release their pressure, and many children in the city have their own smartphone, they also like to play with the phone, like chatting with their friends or browse the online infromation. It's OK to play computer games and play with phone sometimes or on a limited time, but if children spend too much time on doing these things, it would definitely affect their study and physical and mental health.